Monthly Archives: July 2016

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Life Drama #2

I decided to write a little update to my original life drama post.  Writing about it is a little therapeutic for me.  If I don’t write, I will be cleaning like a mad person while trying to clear my mind.

So, when we left, my tenant was going to make me actually evict her because she wasn’t leaving.  Well, after speaking to her husband, she came to her senses and agreed to move peacefully but asked if I could give her until August 1st.  I agreed.  I’m not trying to make her life rough, but I’m trying to stop the financial bleeding that I am going to be experiencing once she leaves.  So, the beginning of last week, I reached out to her via text to find out what day she planned on moving.  I already have a new tenant moving in August 1st because we all agreed that she would be gone.  Well, I did not get a response.  On Thursday, I sent another test asking the same and got the response, “Not yet moved out working on it I’ll let you know.”  So this had me a little confused because what is she going to let me know? She has to be out by the 1st.  So I explain that to her and tell her that someone else is moving in on the 1st.  She goes on to tell me that she won’t be gone by the first  as if I’m just supposed to say “ok”.  Now she is inconveniencing not only me, but the person who has already notified her landlord that she was moving!

So of course, this led to another war of words where she tells me that I didn’t handle the situation like a woman and I should have called her to tell her that I wanted her out instead of sending her a typed letter.  People, I have talked to this woman until I am blue in the face about the late payments.  She continued to lie and be rude about the payments.  As far as I’m concerned, there is nothing more to talk about.  So after speaking with many people, I decide to proceed with the eviction process and notify her of that.  Although I had the 15 day notices put on her door, I did not mail it so that could have caused the case to be tossed out.  So I started over and sent her a 5 day notice, certified.   After a week goes by, I can take the notice to the sheriff’s office along with $130 to begin proceedings.

Well after I sent her the text notifying her that I was proceeding and giving my power of attorney to somewhere in the state so that I don’t have to take time off work, she calls me (I don’t answer because I have nothing more to say) and leaves me a lengthy, teary message on how she lost her job and she has no money.  Her kids won’t help her out.  Now, these grown up kids live with her rent free but supposedly now that she’s in a bind, they are all moving into their own places and she can’t go with! Ummmm…………

Honestly, I feel bad for her situation BUT I cannot afford to let her continue to live there for free!  She fails to understand my issue with her staying there and not paying me.  She has options that she is not using.  There are plenty of people who lose their jobs and have to make sacrifices and swallow their pride and ask for help from people that they may not want to.  In my opinion, she has burned so many bridges with people by her crap attitude and lies that no one wants to get involved.  But I know she has family and friends.  She needs to humbly go to them.  I WON’T stop the eviction.  I can’t.  At this point, I’m already $4500 in the hole which she fails to get through her thick skull.

Anyways, the saga continues.  I just want the toxicity of this person and this situation to go away.  Its truly ruining my normally peaceful existence.

Bye for now…..

 

 

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Who Am I? What do I believe?

With all the violence going on in the U.S. right now, it is leading to many arguments, conversations and debates on social media.  Today I had a conversation with a family member that made me ask myself what I believe in.  I grew up attending Baptist churches and my family is pretty religious so whenever turmoil like this is happening, their first answer is to pray.  I do not have an issue with this at all.  I think prayer is good.  However, someone recently posted that you cannot believe in God if you don’t believe in Jesus.  I had to speak up and tell her that Ido not believe that is true.  There are many people who believe in God, but don’t believe in Jesus.  It does not make them any less religious or any less of a christian. So after having this little discussion, I had to ask myself what do I believe?

I have always considered myself a Christian, however I have also always known that I think differently. I believe in God and I believe in Jesus Christ.  I do not believe that God and Jesus are the same.  I believe that there is only one God and that Jesus is the son of God. I believe those are two different entities.  I may have issues with the bible and its role in our troubled society due to misinterpretation, but I always believed in its truth.  Does that now mean that I am not a Christian?  I don’t know.  But it took me a long time to get to this place with my religious beliefs.  I went through a period where I felt that I didn’t belong in that faith.

I now attend a non-denominational church that has the motto Love, Acceptance and Forgiveness.  I love everyone.  I have friends of different race, different religions, different sex, and different economic background and I love them all.  I can accept that they are different than I am and KNOW that they are good people.  I refuse to be a part of any group that thinks they are better than another.  The only person that anyone will have to answer to is God…whenever they meet him.  My job is to love you and treat you with respect as a human being.

Maybe if we all could live by this, this world wouldn’t be so tough.  LOVE!

 

Just my little rant until next time…..

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Life Drama

Sometimes, no matter how kind of a person you are or how you try to keep your life drama free, unkind situations seem to find you.  I live a relatively low key life.  I mind my own business and stay neutral in all situations.  This is a story on bad business on my part but also a life learning one.

This week, I have been dragged into a little drama.  I inherited my mother’s house after she passed away.  I live in another state and I really didn’t have the time or energy to be there to try to sell it.  So, I decided to let family stay in it.  I only have two requirements for living in this house.  The first requirement is to pay the rent and water bill on time.  The second requirement is to keep the house up.  That’s it.  If they are able to do that, I let them stay for low rent (only the mortgage).  I’m not trying to make money off of it.  Just want to offer something nice to family members and close friends.

Well, I know that if my mom knew all the situations that I would be in by just holding on to her house, she would have sold it.  I know this because she asked me if I wanted her to and I told her NO.  I was already losing her.  I didn’t want to lose something else that she took pride in having.  Anyway, I have a cousin that I decided to let move in.  I love him!  He is one of my favorite people in this world.  His wife, however, is not. My cousin got into trouble almost two years ago and is now in jail.  His wife is still in the house and now responsible for paying the rent and taking care of things.  Well, here is where things start on a downward spiral.

Since the very beginning of her taking over, she has been late with the payments.  Her husband even paid her ahead, unknowingly to her.  But she used up those payments within the first year.  She didn’t pay one dime on the water bill which then got tacked on to the taxes causing the mortgage cost to raise.  She is constantly making plans that she doesn’t keep.  For a while, I would pay the mortgage so that it would not be late because she would say she would pay by a certain date.  She frequently reneged on those promises so I had to stop doing that because it was causing me financial stress. Well, this woman has frequently told me that she can’t afford the mortgage because she’s not making a lot of money.  So, I’m thinking well she’s going to move out.  I would have completely understood.  But she stays and continues to pay late, then suddenly she will catch up and start the non-paying all over again.  I explained to her several times that she has to pay on time because I’m getting letters from the bank.  The bank has also sent letters to the house, which she unlawfully opens and does not mention them to me.  She even took them to other people to look at, but I digress!  Now, she has told me several times that if I want her to move that she would.  So after the last month of continuous lies and non-communication, I took the initiative and gave her notice to move. I explained to her previously about what my expectations for the month of July was and she broke her promises.  Well now she has a problem with it.  She tells me that she’s not going to move and that I will have to take her to court!  This is what I am dealing with.  A chronic liar with no morals.  I just have no words for the situation.  Does she even realize that getting evicted through the court mean that no one will rent to her?  NO ONE.  Where is she going to stay?  So now, I have to take time off and head to another state to take her to court.  Part of me just want to call the bank and tell them to foreclose and part wants to proceed with the court process.  Either way, doing business with family have proven to be a mistake.  I have heard it said before, but didn’t listen.  Now I will.  Now I will try to learn from my mistakes and the mistakes of others.

End of Story.