Final Life Update (House)

For those who have been following my life updates regarding my house in another state, here is the final installment.  I have finally gotten rid of the trashy tenant. My aunt went to court on my behalf and the tenant showed up as well.  She signed an affidavit with the court that she would be out of the house on Sept. 15th.  If we had no agreed to allow her to do that, we would have had to go back to court at a later date for an official eviction.  I want even go into the stupid eviction laws that allow tenants to stay in your property for such a long time, but anyway she is out.

She actually was not out on the 15th, she was done moving on the 16th which we could have gotten her on violating the affidavit.  When we got to the house on the 16th, she had changed the locks to the security doors and we had to get a locksmith there to open up.  Yes, I have been bleeding money throughout this entire process.   When my aunt got in, that’s when we realized that she had not finished moving out because there was so much stuff still in there. Ironically, she showed up as the locks were being changed and told my aunt that she would have to come back after work to get the rest of her belongings.  My aunt told her to just call her and she would meet her there.  Of course, my aunt was in bed when she called so told her that she would meet her the next day.  The next day, my aunt went there and all of her stuff had been moved out.  THEY BROKE INTO THE HOUSE.  At this point, I’m over it all.  As long as she’s gone, I don’t really care.

So my aunt takes a look at the house and she says it’s really dirty but other than that..it’s ok.  Well I got many pictures and the house was a giant mess. There were even holes in two walls.  I know that I probably got away luckier than some that it wasn’t worse, but it is still bad.  I don’t think they had cleaned the house in years.  They left a stove and refrigerator there that was disgusting and smelled.  The dust in the place was atleast 2″ high on every nook and cranny.  Cobwebs in almost every corner and along the walls.  The house now has roaches which we are presently trying to exterminate. It’s been a big mess.   The tenant that was going to move in has decided not to move in because of the state of the house…so I’m left with carrying the mortgage myself for even longer.

However, I am at a point where I can move on.  Hopefully this is the worst it will ever be.  I will take this as a huge lesson and not letting my heart affect my business sense. I should have thrown her out years ago.  I know that.  I waited to long.  It’s a tough lesson learned, but I know now.  I won’t make the mistake again.

Thank you for following my little dramatic journey.  Hopefully I can now go back to my regularly scheduled programming!

 

My Fall/Winter handbag

As the summer is winding down, I am preparing to put away my summer handbag and pull out my winter ones.  As I was going through some previous posts, I realized that I did a post on two summer bags, but none on my winter bags.  I was thinking of one bag in particular because it has been my favorite since I purchased it over a year ago.

My staple winter bag is the ZAC Zac Posen Daphne Barrel Satchel.  I fell in love with this purse the moment I laid eyes on it.  Now, I rarely purchase anything full price so at the time that I saw it, it was already on a pretty good discount.  I purchased mine at Saks Off Fifth for about 1/2 price.  I originally saw it in one of the stores I frequent in Georgia, but did not buy it because I wanted to walk away from it and see if I still wanted it a week or so later.  I walked away from it twice, but could not get it off my mind so decided to bite the bullet and get it.  Guess what?  It was sold out at my store!  So I chalked it up as a loss because of my slow response.  About a month or so later, I was on vacation in Florida and went outlet shopping there.  Low and behold…there was my bag in a Saks there.  I didn’t mess around.  I scooped it up then and there and purchased it.  I have not regret my decision.

Anyway, about the bag.  It is a very structured handbag, so it is not the easiest to get into.  I like that though since I rarely zip up my bags.  Because it is so structured and the opening so tight, it keeps everything safe from spilling out when I don’t close it all the way.  It also has my favorite feature on a handbag which is pockets on each side.  I love to be able to put my cell phone in these pockets for easy access.  It has a pocket on the front, which is convenient for throwing change in, but I don’t use this pocket as much as the sides.  I also love the gold hardware.  I am normally a silver hardware/accessory person, but the gold against the black really stands out and make the bag look luxurious.  It also has the gold hardware on the bottom to allow the bag to stand up, which is another favorite feature of mine.

As you can see in the picture, this year, I have done the latest trend which is wrapping one of my handles with a scare.  I love it. It gives it a little something different this year.  I always get compliments on this bag which is always a bonus to me.  Unfortunately, this purse is probably no longer available, but I wanted to share it anyway.  What is your favorite winter handbag?

Talk to you all soon…..

Some things that I’ve learned these past few months.

As you have read, I have been experiencing a lot of drama this past few months, so here are a few things that I have learned the hard way.

  1. People use the word “love” so haphazardly.  I wonder if they even know the meaning of it.
  2. Many people want to see you fail even if they won’t say it out loud.
  3. Some people only believe in helping others if there is something in it for them.
  4. Family will betray you.
  5. Everyone likes a bit of drama as long as they can watch from the sidelines.
  6. Do not do business with family.  This is something that I had always known, but failed to follow through on.  Twice.
  7. Even though it’s hard, don’t stoop to a negative person’s level.
  8. Try not to hate.  I really see why people can get violent now, but really try to stay above that.
  9. Pray, meditate, exercise….whatever.  I’ve had to find things to keep my mind off of everything.  Not as bad as when my mom passed and I could only sleep with the t.v. on so that I would stop thinking so much about it..but on a smaller scale.
  10. Don’t dwell on the past or the would have, should haves.  Take the situation for the lesson that it was and try no to repeat it.