This Christmas is a first for me. I decided, along with my best friend, that we would not be putting up decorations or exchanging gifts. The only thing we are doing is hosting dinner at the house. I admit that it feels odd. There are many reasons that this decision was made on my part. To be honest, we didn’t celebrate any holidays in my house this year. I did cook for Thanksgiving, but I spent that holiday alone. I spent the day eating and hanging out in my pajamas. It was good, but Christmas is different.
I love Christmas! It is my favorite time of the year. I think that the majority of people are really happy around this time. At least that has been my experience. There is always a little extra joy in the air. The Christmas carols, movies and just overall cheer puts almost everyone in a good mood.
I also admit that this time of the year can be very overwhelming for people who just feel that there is to much to do. The shopping, food preparing, decorating, and schedule juggling can be daunting. I get it. I’m fortunate..or unfortunate to some…to not have much immediate family (husband, children, parents). Because of this, I don’t have much juggling but I do have all of the other things to contend with. My overall thoughts are Christmas is what you make it.
Christmas is, after all, the celebration of the birth of Christ. All of the other stuff is just extra. No one needs to go out and buy a ton of gifts or have an extravagant dinner. So whenever people say..the holiday has become so commercial, I think ‘It doesn’t have to be.’ Everyone needs to create their own thing and give their own spin to celebrating. They should make it what they want or feel that is should be.
This year, I’ve decided to just do dinner. No need to buy me any gifts. I’m giving love on Christmas day…as the song says. That being said, I kind of missed the hustle and bustle. I probably will be putting a little gift giving back into the plans next year and I definitely will be decorating. I miss my tree. I can’t wait for it to appear next year. You can check out my tree in previous years blog posts though if you want. I normally put up two trees a year..my office tree and my tree at home. It used to be three when my mom was alive. This year, I only put up the office tree but I miss my home tree filled with my ornaments that have been accumulated over the years. So, yes it has been an unconventional Christmas for me but I think I needed the little reset.
Til next time……
It’s my late grandmother’s birthday. I was reminded of this by my aunts on Facebook, and I’m glad I was. I called my grandmother, Mun. I’m pretty sure it is because my mother and her siblings called her Ma, but I mistook it for Mun. Now I just consider it my special name for her. My grandmother passed away when I was seven years old. I had such love for her.
I still remember things that we did. I remember her making me cornbread and buttermilk, and even pig ears in vinegar. This is stuff I would NEVER eat now. My mom and aunts said that I was a picky eater and would never eat a lot of things, so my mun would just make me biscuits and I would always eat that.
I was with my grandmother a lot when I was a baby. I loved spending the night at her house. Her and my mom were the most influential people in my life. I just remember how strong she was as a single woman (widowed) with eleven children. You didn’t mess with her either. I never heard her complain about a thing. She was an avid church goer and dragged all of her kids and grand kids along with her. It was a huge family and she managed to keep us all together. There are so many stories that I could probably share, but ultimately I just want to say Happy Birthday, Mun. I love you. I think of you a lot. I hope that you and my mom are having the best time on your day.
Til next time….
Today is my birthday. As with any birthday, I have a ton of thoughts going through my head. Am I where I want to be in this life? What are my goals for this birthday year? Is age nothing but a number?
Ironically, I don’t think I have ever been afraid of getting older. I don’t even think I really thought about it. I always thought that as long as I was healthy and had a great quality of life…I’d be happy. I can honestly say that is the case. I don’t feel 44. I don’t even think I act 44. I’m still very young at heart and refuse to let society tell me what I should or shouldn’t do or be at any age. My motto is and will always be, do what makes you happy. I still sing at the top of my lungs in my car. I still dance around my bedroom like I’m 16. Life is good!
So if I had anything so say about this birthday. It is that 44 looks and feels great! I’m living my best life right now. I know that regrets are somewhat unavoidable, but I try to keep them to a minimum by just doing what I enjoy.
Birthday outfit: Lane Bryant’s gingham collection – Off the shoulder shirdress – Sold out; Nordstrom Rack Ash Mumbaia sandals – Sold out
Talk to you all soon!
It’s no secret that 2016 just was not kind to me. I struggled with every aspect of my life. My year was taken over by someone that was draining every bit of energy and joy from me and it affected me in a huge way.
I am determined to take my joy back this year though and just leave the past behind me. I am ready to try very hard to make some big changes. I want to work harder at keeping up with this blog. My posts this past year was pretty sporadic, so I definitely want to change that. I also want to work more on my fitness. I want to get back to working out 5-6 times a week. A few years ago, I had the best fitness regime and I want to get back to that. I also want to finish redecorating my bedroom. I started that last year, but just stopped toward the middle of the year because I was so stressed about everything else. So now I sit in a half painted bedroom. My new year resolution is always to be happy. I don’t believe that I was last year, so I’m going to work on making that happen this year. With my mom’s house pretty sorted, I feel that I should be able to get back to myself.
So….here’s to a new year! I hope it is wonderful for us all.
Talk to you all soon….
Since it is almost Halloween, I decided to make a list of the movies that I could watch that evening. Now, I am not really into horror, so movies like Halloween, It, and Exorcist would never make my list because I could never stomach watching them again. My scary movies are very cheesy but still has a “scary-ish” vibe. So, below are my top 1o “scary” movies in no order.
- Practical Magic
- Nightmare on Elm Street (1st one only) – The only horror film I can stand.
- The Wraith
- What Lies Beneath (I was traumatized at Harrison Ford being a baddie)
For those who have been following my life updates regarding my house in another state, here is the final installment. I have finally gotten rid of the trashy tenant. My aunt went to court on my behalf and the tenant showed up as well. She signed an affidavit with the court that she would be out of the house on Sept. 15th. If we had no agreed to allow her to do that, we would have had to go back to court at a later date for an official eviction. I want even go into the stupid eviction laws that allow tenants to stay in your property for such a long time, but anyway she is out.
She actually was not out on the 15th, she was done moving on the 16th which we could have gotten her on violating the affidavit. When we got to the house on the 16th, she had changed the locks to the security doors and we had to get a locksmith there to open up. Yes, I have been bleeding money throughout this entire process. When my aunt got in, that’s when we realized that she had not finished moving out because there was so much stuff still in there. Ironically, she showed up as the locks were being changed and told my aunt that she would have to come back after work to get the rest of her belongings. My aunt told her to just call her and she would meet her there. Of course, my aunt was in bed when she called so told her that she would meet her the next day. The next day, my aunt went there and all of her stuff had been moved out. THEY BROKE INTO THE HOUSE. At this point, I’m over it all. As long as she’s gone, I don’t really care.
So my aunt takes a look at the house and she says it’s really dirty but other than that..it’s ok. Well I got many pictures and the house was a giant mess. There were even holes in two walls. I know that I probably got away luckier than some that it wasn’t worse, but it is still bad. I don’t think they had cleaned the house in years. They left a stove and refrigerator there that was disgusting and smelled. The dust in the place was atleast 2″ high on every nook and cranny. Cobwebs in almost every corner and along the walls. The house now has roaches which we are presently trying to exterminate. It’s been a big mess. The tenant that was going to move in has decided not to move in because of the state of the house…so I’m left with carrying the mortgage myself for even longer.
However, I am at a point where I can move on. Hopefully this is the worst it will ever be. I will take this as a huge lesson and not letting my heart affect my business sense. I should have thrown her out years ago. I know that. I waited to long. It’s a tough lesson learned, but I know now. I won’t make the mistake again.
Thank you for following my little dramatic journey. Hopefully I can now go back to my regularly scheduled programming!
As you have read, I have been experiencing a lot of drama this past few months, so here are a few things that I have learned the hard way.
- People use the word “love” so haphazardly. I wonder if they even know the meaning of it.
- Many people want to see you fail even if they won’t say it out loud.
- Some people only believe in helping others if there is something in it for them.
- Family will betray you.
- Everyone likes a bit of drama as long as they can watch from the sidelines.
- Do not do business with family. This is something that I had always known, but failed to follow through on. Twice.
- Even though it’s hard, don’t stoop to a negative person’s level.
- Try not to hate. I really see why people can get violent now, but really try to stay above that.
- Pray, meditate, exercise….whatever. I’ve had to find things to keep my mind off of everything. Not as bad as when my mom passed and I could only sleep with the t.v. on so that I would stop thinking so much about it..but on a smaller scale.
- Don’t dwell on the past or the would have, should haves. Take the situation for the lesson that it was and try no to repeat it.