Fifty Shades Darker (Movie Review)

I’m a fan of Fifty Shades of Grey. If you read my top romance movies, you will know that the first installment almost made the list. I went to see the newest installment, 50 Shades Darker, this past Friday and just wanted to write down my thoughts.

I liked it. A lot. I may even be able to say I loved it, but I’m trying to give it a little time to sink in. If you enjoyed the first one, I don’t think you will be disappointed in this one.

Now, I believe that there were some parts of it (not sexual) that could have been slowed down or elaborated on, but it wasn’t a deal breaker on my enjoyment of the movie. I really LOVE Christian and Ana’s relationship. I love seeing it evolve on the screen. I really enjoyed seeing more of Christian’s turmoil and willingness to try to work on his “mommy” issues. I will say that the lipstick scene made me laugh out loud though. Ha!

The movie wasn’t exactly like the book, but touched on almost everything. Reading a book is very different from a movie, because the book is through your imagination. If I had to give one suggestion, I would have just said to add more in depth, longer scenes to the more important scenes.  The scene where Christian “submits” to Ana was so emotional in the book.  I would have loved to see MORE during that scene.  It just didn’t last long enough to give it the impact that it deserved. Never the less, though, the scene still made me gasp when it happened.  I knew it was coming and it was still good, but could have been great.

Anyway, enough of my rambling.  All in all, it was a very good movie that I’m sure will be in heavy rotation in my DVD player when it comes out.

Talk to you soon!

2017, Here I come.

It’s no secret that 2016 just was not kind to me.  I struggled with every aspect of my life.  My year was taken over by someone that was draining every bit of energy and joy from me and it affected me in a huge way.

I am determined to take my joy back this year though and just leave the past behind me.  I am ready to try very hard to make some big changes.  I want to work harder at keeping up with this blog.  My posts this past year was pretty sporadic, so I definitely want to change that.  I also want to work more on my fitness.  I want to get back to working out 5-6 times a week.  A few years ago, I had the best fitness regime and I want to get back to that. I also want to finish redecorating my bedroom.  I started that last year, but just stopped toward the middle of the year because I was so stressed about everything else. So now I sit in a half painted bedroom.   My new year resolution is always to be happy.  I don’t believe that I was last year, so I’m going to work on making that happen this year.  With my mom’s house pretty sorted, I feel that I should be able to get back to myself.

So….here’s to a new year! I hope it is wonderful for us all.

Talk to you all soon….

 

 

Rebecca Minkoff Gilles Espadrille Flats

This weekend, I finally got out to the shops again.  Now, I am on a bit of a spending halt due to the Wisconsin house situation, but I have been having cabin fever!  I have gone shopping with my friend, but that is more for her and not necessarily for me.  So this past weekend,  I got a chance to go to a few of my favorite places which include Saks Off 5th.

Well, I found a nice little deal on this cute pair of denim and black leather espadrilles by Rebecca Minkoff.  Honestly, I had never seen them before but they must have been a popular summer shoe.  Espadrilles can often be really hard and uncomfortable, but not the case with these beauties.  They are soft and bend with foot movements.  I absolutely adore them.  I got them on a nice discount of about 65% off which made them even that much better.

 

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Final Life Update (House)

For those who have been following my life updates regarding my house in another state, here is the final installment.  I have finally gotten rid of the trashy tenant. My aunt went to court on my behalf and the tenant showed up as well.  She signed an affidavit with the court that she would be out of the house on Sept. 15th.  If we had no agreed to allow her to do that, we would have had to go back to court at a later date for an official eviction.  I want even go into the stupid eviction laws that allow tenants to stay in your property for such a long time, but anyway she is out.

She actually was not out on the 15th, she was done moving on the 16th which we could have gotten her on violating the affidavit.  When we got to the house on the 16th, she had changed the locks to the security doors and we had to get a locksmith there to open up.  Yes, I have been bleeding money throughout this entire process.   When my aunt got in, that’s when we realized that she had not finished moving out because there was so much stuff still in there. Ironically, she showed up as the locks were being changed and told my aunt that she would have to come back after work to get the rest of her belongings.  My aunt told her to just call her and she would meet her there.  Of course, my aunt was in bed when she called so told her that she would meet her the next day.  The next day, my aunt went there and all of her stuff had been moved out.  THEY BROKE INTO THE HOUSE.  At this point, I’m over it all.  As long as she’s gone, I don’t really care.

So my aunt takes a look at the house and she says it’s really dirty but other than that..it’s ok.  Well I got many pictures and the house was a giant mess. There were even holes in two walls.  I know that I probably got away luckier than some that it wasn’t worse, but it is still bad.  I don’t think they had cleaned the house in years.  They left a stove and refrigerator there that was disgusting and smelled.  The dust in the place was atleast 2″ high on every nook and cranny.  Cobwebs in almost every corner and along the walls.  The house now has roaches which we are presently trying to exterminate. It’s been a big mess.   The tenant that was going to move in has decided not to move in because of the state of the house…so I’m left with carrying the mortgage myself for even longer.

However, I am at a point where I can move on.  Hopefully this is the worst it will ever be.  I will take this as a huge lesson and not letting my heart affect my business sense. I should have thrown her out years ago.  I know that.  I waited to long.  It’s a tough lesson learned, but I know now.  I won’t make the mistake again.

Thank you for following my little dramatic journey.  Hopefully I can now go back to my regularly scheduled programming!

 

Some things that I’ve learned these past few months.

As you have read, I have been experiencing a lot of drama this past few months, so here are a few things that I have learned the hard way.

  1. People use the word “love” so haphazardly.  I wonder if they even know the meaning of it.
  2. Many people want to see you fail even if they won’t say it out loud.
  3. Some people only believe in helping others if there is something in it for them.
  4. Family will betray you.
  5. Everyone likes a bit of drama as long as they can watch from the sidelines.
  6. Do not do business with family.  This is something that I had always known, but failed to follow through on.  Twice.
  7. Even though it’s hard, don’t stoop to a negative person’s level.
  8. Try not to hate.  I really see why people can get violent now, but really try to stay above that.
  9. Pray, meditate, exercise….whatever.  I’ve had to find things to keep my mind off of everything.  Not as bad as when my mom passed and I could only sleep with the t.v. on so that I would stop thinking so much about it..but on a smaller scale.
  10. Don’t dwell on the past or the would have, should haves.  Take the situation for the lesson that it was and try no to repeat it.

Life Drama #3

Well, the saga continues with the woman living in the house in Wisconsin.  I had contacted the water company regarding the outstanding bill and they said that there could be a leak due to the extremely high bill.  They said they had sent a letter to the occupant but as of that day, no one from their office had been there to check the house.  I think she meant that they had not gotten a response to the letter sent.

So, I sent a letter to the tenant to give her 24 hour notice that someone would be at the house to inspect for water leaks and mow the lawn (which is her responsibility but has not been done).  I also text her this information as well.  She sends me a message back saying that the person (my uncle) can’t come that day but could come on Sunday.  I’m trying to be cordial to this girl even though she is being nasty to me.  I tell her that is fine but my uncle goes to church and can come after he gets out.

Today is Sunday.  Guess what?  My uncle gets there and her son tells him that he cannot come into the property because his mother is not home. See how this is playing out.  I request something, she requests to amend but then fails to follow through.  So my uncle can’t get into the property to check or fix leaks and meanwhile the water bill continues to increase MAJORLY.

By the way, per this girl, her son and daughter were moving out because of the eviction.  Everyone is still in the house.  Not paying rent.  Just squatting. And since this has all gone down, they have broken the glass in the front safety door.

Talk to you all again soon…..

Life Drama

Sometimes, no matter how kind of a person you are or how you try to keep your life drama free, unkind situations seem to find you.  I live a relatively low key life.  I mind my own business and stay neutral in all situations.  This is a story on bad business on my part but also a life learning one.

This week, I have been dragged into a little drama.  I inherited my mother’s house after she passed away.  I live in another state and I really didn’t have the time or energy to be there to try to sell it.  So, I decided to let family stay in it.  I only have two requirements for living in this house.  The first requirement is to pay the rent and water bill on time.  The second requirement is to keep the house up.  That’s it.  If they are able to do that, I let them stay for low rent (only the mortgage).  I’m not trying to make money off of it.  Just want to offer something nice to family members and close friends.

Well, I know that if my mom knew all the situations that I would be in by just holding on to her house, she would have sold it.  I know this because she asked me if I wanted her to and I told her NO.  I was already losing her.  I didn’t want to lose something else that she took pride in having.  Anyway, I have a cousin that I decided to let move in.  I love him!  He is one of my favorite people in this world.  His wife, however, is not. My cousin got into trouble almost two years ago and is now in jail.  His wife is still in the house and now responsible for paying the rent and taking care of things.  Well, here is where things start on a downward spiral.

Since the very beginning of her taking over, she has been late with the payments.  Her husband even paid her ahead, unknowingly to her.  But she used up those payments within the first year.  She didn’t pay one dime on the water bill which then got tacked on to the taxes causing the mortgage cost to raise.  She is constantly making plans that she doesn’t keep.  For a while, I would pay the mortgage so that it would not be late because she would say she would pay by a certain date.  She frequently reneged on those promises so I had to stop doing that because it was causing me financial stress. Well, this woman has frequently told me that she can’t afford the mortgage because she’s not making a lot of money.  So, I’m thinking well she’s going to move out.  I would have completely understood.  But she stays and continues to pay late, then suddenly she will catch up and start the non-paying all over again.  I explained to her several times that she has to pay on time because I’m getting letters from the bank.  The bank has also sent letters to the house, which she unlawfully opens and does not mention them to me.  She even took them to other people to look at, but I digress!  Now, she has told me several times that if I want her to move that she would.  So after the last month of continuous lies and non-communication, I took the initiative and gave her notice to move. I explained to her previously about what my expectations for the month of July was and she broke her promises.  Well now she has a problem with it.  She tells me that she’s not going to move and that I will have to take her to court!  This is what I am dealing with.  A chronic liar with no morals.  I just have no words for the situation.  Does she even realize that getting evicted through the court mean that no one will rent to her?  NO ONE.  Where is she going to stay?  So now, I have to take time off and head to another state to take her to court.  Part of me just want to call the bank and tell them to foreclose and part wants to proceed with the court process.  Either way, doing business with family have proven to be a mistake.  I have heard it said before, but didn’t listen.  Now I will.  Now I will try to learn from my mistakes and the mistakes of others.

End of Story.