Happy New Year! 2018

^The picture above was at my personal trainer’s studio many years ago.

It’s a new year!  I am extremely happy to see the back end of 2017.  It wasn’t a horrible year, but it wasn’t a great one either.  I honestly can’t say that I achieve a single goal that I wanted in 2017.  As a matter of fact, I was very lax in everything last year.  I did nothing.  Well, I’m determined to make this year different.  I honestly want to take charge of my health and finances this year.  I’ve decided to tackle it month by month instead of making a goal for the year.  Well, I guess taking charge of my health and finances would be my goal for 2018, but I’m going to break it down in monthly goals.

My health is something that I need to get in control of.  Here is the honest truth..I’m diabetic and I have high blood pressure.  It’s not a good thing.  At all.  About 10 years ago, this started to rear its ugly head and I did my best to get out in front of it by hiring a personal trainer to help me with my fitness.  I was very involved in my nutrition by reading and researching everything I could online.  I counted calories, I stopped eating processed food.  I stopped drinking soda. I had pizza every once in a while (maybe once every other month).  I was ON IT!  And I was successful.  I dropped 50 lbs.  I lost many many inches and I felt good.  But, it was hard!  Anyone who tells you healthy living is easy is lying to you.  It was hard.  It was so hard only drinking water and taking more than 10 minutes looking over a menu when going out with friends to see what I could eat.  It came easier with time, but..still…it was hard.  At some point, I hit a plateau and that is honestly the most frustrating part of losing weight.  Plus I started to have financial problems because the recession was starting to hit….so I ended up losing momentum.

Well, here we are many years later and I’ve completely gotten off the wagon. I stopped working out.  I stopped paying attention to what I’m eating and here I am..taking pills for blood pressure and diabetes.  I don’t like it at all, so it has to change.  My goal for the month of January is to exercise five days a week.  I have a treadmill in my bedroom right next to the bed.  There is no excuse to not hop on it almost every single day for an evening walk.  So…there it is.  In writing.  Five days a week in the month of January.  I will add on to this goal in February.  Small steps is all I need.

Next is finances.  My finances spiraled out of control last year.  I did start to change things in the fall of last year, so I just want to continue that path.  I hate being in debt.  I hate credit cards.  I would love to pay cash for everything and have extra cash on hand for emergencies. I hope to never have to pick up a credit card again!  Again, when I bought my house over 10 years ago, I was completely debt free.  I had paid off every single credit card I had.  It was great.  I felt so accomplished.  I had set a goal and followed through.  I was proud of myself for doing it.  Today, I have about five credit cards, all with balances.  I’m ready to get rid of them all and that’s going to be my goal for 2018.  The month of January, I’m tackling the first card.  Lowe’s.  My goal is to pay this card completely off in January.  It’s about $160, but that’s money that I can free up to tackle the next card.  I also plan on putting about $200 in savings during January.  I plan on doing this by not dining out AT ALL during the month of January.  I will only eat what I have in the house.  I will be doing a strict monthly budget so that I can work to get both of these goals done and maybe even get a running jump on the February goal.

Well…here we go.  It’s all in writing. These are my goals for January.  2018 is a year for advancement.  Same old me…just a better version.

What will you be doing in 2018?

Talk to you all soon……..



Ms. Independent?

I’m a forever single girl.  It’s my lot in life.  Because of this, I’m pretty independent.  I have to be. I don’t have anyone to fall back on if stuff happens.  The only person that I had to fall back on was my mom and she’s been gone for many years.  So now…it’s just me, and that’s ok.

Sometimes I wonder if I’m a strange one because I spend the majority of my time alone and I like it. I’m used to it.  I grew up being used to it.  See, not only am I a single girl…I’m an only child.  I have always had to entertain myself when there was no one around.  I grew up spending a lot of time with friends and cousins, but mostly I was by myself.

When I was a teenager, I once saw this lady who I believe may have been in her 40’s walking across a street mumbling to herself about no needing anyone.  I always think this is a strange thing to remember because it was so random.  I sometimes wonder if that was younger me seeing a vision of older me? It’s odd to remember it so vividly, when I may not even remember what I had for dinner yesterday.

Sometimes I think that it would have been nice to have someone to lean on. Sometimes I just don’t want to deal with things and it would be good to have someone say “I got you.” Then I come back to reality and just try my best to pull out my inner girl boss and handle stuff.

Anyways…these are just my early morning jumbled thoughts.

Til next time….


My Grandmother

It’s my late grandmother’s birthday.  I was reminded of this by my aunts on Facebook, and I’m glad I was.  I called my grandmother, Mun.  I’m pretty sure it is because my mother and her siblings called her Ma, but I mistook it for Mun.  Now I just consider it my special name for her.  My grandmother passed away when I was seven years old.  I had such love for her.

I still remember things that we did.  I remember her making me cornbread and buttermilk, and even pig ears in vinegar.  This is stuff I would NEVER eat now.  My mom and aunts said that I was a picky eater and would never eat a lot of things, so my mun would just make me biscuits and I would always eat that.

I was with my grandmother a lot when I was a baby.  I loved spending the night at her house.  Her and my mom were the most influential people in my life.  I just remember how strong she was as a single woman (widowed) with eleven children. You didn’t mess with her either.  I never heard her complain about a thing.  She was an avid church goer and dragged all of her kids and grand kids along with her.  It was a huge family and she managed to keep us all together.  There are so many stories that I could probably share, but ultimately I just want to say Happy Birthday, Mun.  I love you.  I think of you a lot.  I hope that you and my mom are having the best time on your day.

Til next time….


Today is my birthday.  As with any birthday, I have a ton of thoughts going through my head.  Am I where I want to be in this life?  What are my goals for this birthday year?  Is age nothing but a number?

Ironically, I don’t think I have ever been afraid of getting older.  I don’t even think I really thought about it.  I always thought that as long as I was healthy and had a great quality of life…I’d be happy.  I can honestly say that is the case.  I don’t feel 44.  I don’t even think I act 44.  I’m still very young at heart and refuse to let society tell me what I should or shouldn’t do or be at any age.  My motto is and will always be, do what makes you happy. I still sing at the top of my lungs in my car.  I still dance around my bedroom like I’m 16.  Life is good!

So if I had anything so say about this birthday.  It is that 44 looks and feels great!  I’m living my best life right now.  I know that regrets are somewhat unavoidable, but I try to keep them to a minimum by just doing what I enjoy.

Birthday outfit:  Lane Bryant’s gingham collection – Off the shoulder shirdress – Sold out; Nordstrom Rack Ash Mumbaia sandals – Sold out

Talk to you all soon!


Tatcha Skin Care

Finally, I’ve gotten my hands on some Tatcha products.  I’ve been wanting to try this for a while.  I had previously gotten a sample of the moisturizer from Sephora and enjoyed using it for the two or three days that I could get out of it.

Sephora has gotten in Tatcha’s Best Seller Sets of four products for a very good price.  The box set alone was the cost of what one item could cost you, so I was extremely excited.  I believe the set was about $60. I would say the size of the products were about 1/2 the size of the full product.  Not a sample size, so it’s a really good buy.  Now, I wasn’t sure how Tatcha products would work on dark skin, but that never deters me from trying anything out, so here are my opinions.

The box set contains their Pure Camellia Cleansing Oil, Polished Rice Enzyme Powder, Supple Moisture Rich Cream, and Luminous Dewy Skin Mist.  I was most excited to have the Dewy Skin mist because I had tried that out in the store several times, but I found another couple of gems in this set.

My favorite product is actually the Polished Rice Enzyme Powder.  I would have never thought I would enjoy washing my face with this product as much as I do.  I just thought that it would be a little scratchy and drying, but it’s exactly the opposite.  My face feels very soft and supple after I use it.  After the wash, of course, I use the Supple Moisture Rich Cream which is my second favorite product.  After using these, my skin just feels really soft and smooth.  It gives me a little bit of a glow without looking like a greasy mess. I can say that my powder foundation applies really well after I use these products.

The Cleansing oil is pretty good.  It gets the majority of the makeup off and it does work very well at getting mascara/eye makeup off.  Since it is used before the enzyme powder, it does exactly what it was supposed to do.

Now, finally, the Dewy Skin Mist.  This is the product that I have heard the most about and like I said…I’ve tried it so I already knew I would like it.  The spray is perfectly fine.  It doesn’t come out to heavy and it just gives a perfect refreshing mist when your skin needs it.  I didn’t really use it over any makeup.  I tended to just use it when my skin felt a little dry during the day.

All in all, great products.  I hate to say that I think they are worth the money, but IMO, they are.  I would buy the full sized versions.

Talk to you all soon!

Whish Beauty

Here is another product that I have been trying out for a while.  Of course, I purchased my products when they were on clearance at Ulta, however the line is still there with many choices and scents in the regular section as well. Whish says that it’s products are all natural and made with organic ingredients, which sounds great to me!  I’m always searching out organic or natural products that work well.  The products are pretty pricey which is why I jumped at the opportunity to try these clearance products.

The first products I tried were the body cream and body oil.  I really like the body oil.  The body cream was ok on it’s own, but nothing that I was overly excited about. I do love to mix the body oil and the body cream together so that it is extra smooth and moisturizing on the skin.

The second item that I tried was the Shaving cream!  O. M. G.   –  LOVE!  I don’t know what it is about this product, but I absolutely love it and it leaves my skin really smooth.  Of course, since I loved this so much, I went ahead to bought the Hair inhibiting gel and tried out the Flawless swipes as well.  The gel is a strange product, but I admit that it feels great on my skin.  It’s a little sticky feeling though.

I have just recently purchase two of their skin care products.  I purchased the Recovering Night Cream and the Restoring Face Oil.   I love these as well.  They make my face feel really soft, but the odor is something that I have to get used to.  It’s not bad, but it’s just….strange.

Anyways, for the most part, I have enjoyed using these.  Hopefully I will get to try out more..if they make their way to my favorite clearance rack.

Talk to you all soon!

Fifty Shades Darker (Movie Review)

I’m a fan of Fifty Shades of Grey. If you read my top romance movies, you will know that the first installment almost made the list. I went to see the newest installment, 50 Shades Darker, this past Friday and just wanted to write down my thoughts.

I liked it. A lot. I may even be able to say I loved it, but I’m trying to give it a little time to sink in. If you enjoyed the first one, I don’t think you will be disappointed in this one.

Now, I believe that there were some parts of it (not sexual) that could have been slowed down or elaborated on, but it wasn’t a deal breaker on my enjoyment of the movie. I really LOVE Christian and Ana’s relationship. I love seeing it evolve on the screen. I really enjoyed seeing more of Christian’s turmoil and willingness to try to work on his “mommy” issues. I will say that the lipstick scene made me laugh out loud though. Ha!

The movie wasn’t exactly like the book, but touched on almost everything. Reading a book is very different from a movie, because the book is through your imagination. If I had to give one suggestion, I would have just said to add more in depth, longer scenes to the more important scenes.  The scene where Christian “submits” to Ana was so emotional in the book.  I would have loved to see MORE during that scene.  It just didn’t last long enough to give it the impact that it deserved. Never the less, though, the scene still made me gasp when it happened.  I knew it was coming and it was still good, but could have been great.

Anyway, enough of my rambling.  All in all, it was a very good movie that I’m sure will be in heavy rotation in my DVD player when it comes out.

Talk to you soon!