When I was around 7 years old, this curly haired dude with a limp came into my life. In the summer, we had our morning trips to his cousins tavern, which was closed during the day, so he could either work or shoot the shit. Not sure which, but I was given quarters to play in the little arcade that was in there until it was time for us to go so I didn’t care. My mom, him and I took drives in a big old, green Lincoln to do weekly shops and stuff. He was into his cars. In fact..I got yelled at all the time when I would drive up home and my car would be the dirtiest thing ever. He was the closest thing to a father that I had since my biological father was never there. Even though we had our ups and downs, he still remained in my life after my mom and his relationship ended. (I question whether it REALLY ended most of the time. lol) He still kept up with me and called me on my birthday each year just to stay in touch. In a way, I took that for granted. I never thought he truly cared until recently when I was one of the first calls made to make me aware of being in the hospital due to COVID-19. Anyway…thank you for being in my life John L. Peoples. I will never get the chance to tell you that. Rest in Peace.
What a crazy time we are in right now. This is my place to get my thoughts out but right now, I just can’t even think straight.
This all just seems like a really bad horror film. I feel like every time I touch something, that error message pops into my head and I have to go scrub my hands.
I hope that you all are doing as ok as you can.
Til next time…..
For those who have been following my life updates regarding my house in another state, here is the final installment. I have finally gotten rid of the trashy tenant. My aunt went to court on my behalf and the tenant showed up as well. She signed an affidavit with the court that she would be out of the house on Sept. 15th. If we had no agreed to allow her to do that, we would have had to go back to court at a later date for an official eviction. I want even go into the stupid eviction laws that allow tenants to stay in your property for such a long time, but anyway she is out.
She actually was not out on the 15th, she was done moving on the 16th which we could have gotten her on violating the affidavit. When we got to the house on the 16th, she had changed the locks to the security doors and we had to get a locksmith there to open up. Yes, I have been bleeding money throughout this entire process. When my aunt got in, that’s when we realized that she had not finished moving out because there was so much stuff still in there. Ironically, she showed up as the locks were being changed and told my aunt that she would have to come back after work to get the rest of her belongings. My aunt told her to just call her and she would meet her there. Of course, my aunt was in bed when she called so told her that she would meet her the next day. The next day, my aunt went there and all of her stuff had been moved out. THEY BROKE INTO THE HOUSE. At this point, I’m over it all. As long as she’s gone, I don’t really care.
So my aunt takes a look at the house and she says it’s really dirty but other than that..it’s ok. Well I got many pictures and the house was a giant mess. There were even holes in two walls. I know that I probably got away luckier than some that it wasn’t worse, but it is still bad. I don’t think they had cleaned the house in years. They left a stove and refrigerator there that was disgusting and smelled. The dust in the place was atleast 2″ high on every nook and cranny. Cobwebs in almost every corner and along the walls. The house now has roaches which we are presently trying to exterminate. It’s been a big mess. The tenant that was going to move in has decided not to move in because of the state of the house…so I’m left with carrying the mortgage myself for even longer.
However, I am at a point where I can move on. Hopefully this is the worst it will ever be. I will take this as a huge lesson and not letting my heart affect my business sense. I should have thrown her out years ago. I know that. I waited to long. It’s a tough lesson learned, but I know now. I won’t make the mistake again.
Thank you for following my little dramatic journey. Hopefully I can now go back to my regularly scheduled programming!
As you have read, I have been experiencing a lot of drama this past few months, so here are a few things that I have learned the hard way.
- People use the word “love” so haphazardly. I wonder if they even know the meaning of it.
- Many people want to see you fail even if they won’t say it out loud.
- Some people only believe in helping others if there is something in it for them.
- Family will betray you.
- Everyone likes a bit of drama as long as they can watch from the sidelines.
- Do not do business with family. This is something that I had always known, but failed to follow through on. Twice.
- Even though it’s hard, don’t stoop to a negative person’s level.
- Try not to hate. I really see why people can get violent now, but really try to stay above that.
- Pray, meditate, exercise….whatever. I’ve had to find things to keep my mind off of everything. Not as bad as when my mom passed and I could only sleep with the t.v. on so that I would stop thinking so much about it..but on a smaller scale.
- Don’t dwell on the past or the would have, should haves. Take the situation for the lesson that it was and try no to repeat it.
Well, the saga continues with the woman living in the house in Wisconsin. I had contacted the water company regarding the outstanding bill and they said that there could be a leak due to the extremely high bill. They said they had sent a letter to the occupant but as of that day, no one from their office had been there to check the house. I think she meant that they had not gotten a response to the letter sent.
So, I sent a letter to the tenant to give her 24 hour notice that someone would be at the house to inspect for water leaks and mow the lawn (which is her responsibility but has not been done). I also text her this information as well. She sends me a message back saying that the person (my uncle) can’t come that day but could come on Sunday. I’m trying to be cordial to this girl even though she is being nasty to me. I tell her that is fine but my uncle goes to church and can come after he gets out.
Today is Sunday. Guess what? My uncle gets there and her son tells him that he cannot come into the property because his mother is not home. See how this is playing out. I request something, she requests to amend but then fails to follow through. So my uncle can’t get into the property to check or fix leaks and meanwhile the water bill continues to increase MAJORLY.
By the way, per this girl, her son and daughter were moving out because of the eviction. Everyone is still in the house. Not paying rent. Just squatting. And since this has all gone down, they have broken the glass in the front safety door.
Talk to you all again soon…..
I decided to write a little update to my original life drama post. Writing about it is a little therapeutic for me. If I don’t write, I will be cleaning like a mad person while trying to clear my mind.
So, when we left, my tenant was going to make me actually evict her because she wasn’t leaving. Well, after speaking to her husband, she came to her senses and agreed to move peacefully but asked if I could give her until August 1st. I agreed. I’m not trying to make her life rough, but I’m trying to stop the financial bleeding that I am going to be experiencing once she leaves. So, the beginning of last week, I reached out to her via text to find out what day she planned on moving. I already have a new tenant moving in August 1st because we all agreed that she would be gone. Well, I did not get a response. On Thursday, I sent another test asking the same and got the response, “Not yet moved out working on it I’ll let you know.” So this had me a little confused because what is she going to let me know? She has to be out by the 1st. So I explain that to her and tell her that someone else is moving in on the 1st. She goes on to tell me that she won’t be gone by the first as if I’m just supposed to say “ok”. Now she is inconveniencing not only me, but the person who has already notified her landlord that she was moving!
So of course, this led to another war of words where she tells me that I didn’t handle the situation like a woman and I should have called her to tell her that I wanted her out instead of sending her a typed letter. People, I have talked to this woman until I am blue in the face about the late payments. She continued to lie and be rude about the payments. As far as I’m concerned, there is nothing more to talk about. So after speaking with many people, I decide to proceed with the eviction process and notify her of that. Although I had the 15 day notices put on her door, I did not mail it so that could have caused the case to be tossed out. So I started over and sent her a 5 day notice, certified. After a week goes by, I can take the notice to the sheriff’s office along with $130 to begin proceedings.
Well after I sent her the text notifying her that I was proceeding and giving my power of attorney to somewhere in the state so that I don’t have to take time off work, she calls me (I don’t answer because I have nothing more to say) and leaves me a lengthy, teary message on how she lost her job and she has no money. Her kids won’t help her out. Now, these grown up kids live with her rent free but supposedly now that she’s in a bind, they are all moving into their own places and she can’t go with! Ummmm…………
Honestly, I feel bad for her situation BUT I cannot afford to let her continue to live there for free! She fails to understand my issue with her staying there and not paying me. She has options that she is not using. There are plenty of people who lose their jobs and have to make sacrifices and swallow their pride and ask for help from people that they may not want to. In my opinion, she has burned so many bridges with people by her crap attitude and lies that no one wants to get involved. But I know she has family and friends. She needs to humbly go to them. I WON’T stop the eviction. I can’t. At this point, I’m already $4500 in the hole which she fails to get through her thick skull.
Anyways, the saga continues. I just want the toxicity of this person and this situation to go away. Its truly ruining my normally peaceful existence.
Bye for now…..
With all the violence going on in the U.S. right now, it is leading to many arguments, conversations and debates on social media. Today I had a conversation with a family member that made me ask myself what I believe in. I grew up attending Baptist churches and my family is pretty religious so whenever turmoil like this is happening, their first answer is to pray. I do not have an issue with this at all. I think prayer is good. However, someone recently posted that you cannot believe in God if you don’t believe in Jesus. I had to speak up and tell her that Ido not believe that is true. There are many people who believe in God, but don’t believe in Jesus. It does not make them any less religious or any less of a christian. So after having this little discussion, I had to ask myself what do I believe?
I have always considered myself a Christian, however I have also always known that I think differently. I believe in God and I believe in Jesus Christ. I do not believe that God and Jesus are the same. I believe that there is only one God and that Jesus is the son of God. I believe those are two different entities. I may have issues with the bible and its role in our troubled society due to misinterpretation, but I always believed in its truth. Does that now mean that I am not a Christian? I don’t know. But it took me a long time to get to this place with my religious beliefs. I went through a period where I felt that I didn’t belong in that faith.
I now attend a non-denominational church that has the motto Love, Acceptance and Forgiveness. I love everyone. I have friends of different race, different religions, different sex, and different economic background and I love them all. I can accept that they are different than I am and KNOW that they are good people. I refuse to be a part of any group that thinks they are better than another. The only person that anyone will have to answer to is God…whenever they meet him. My job is to love you and treat you with respect as a human being.
Maybe if we all could live by this, this world wouldn’t be so tough. LOVE!
Just my little rant until next time…..
I recently saw this tag and thought it was pretty simple to do. It also will be fun to come up with my list, so here I go.
10 things I love
1. Weekends. I’m living for them.
2. Great music. The kind that makes you want to sing at the top of your lungs and can’t help dancing to.
3. Going to the beach anywhere. There is nothing like sitting on the beach watching the water and just relaxing
4. My house. I just love being at home.
5. YouTube. I’m obsessed with daily vlogs. I also just love that you can find anything you need to learn about.
6. Social media. I love reading what other people are getting into.
7. Finding new clothes or cosmetics. You know…me being a shopping addict and all.
8. Peace. I love having time to myself.
9. Summer. It’s my favorite season. I know it can get really really hot, but that’s better than the cold.
10. Being genuinely happy about anything.
10 things I hate
1. People over-complicating anything. Keep it simple, please. Everything doesn’t have to be so difficult.
2. Fighting/arguing. I just have never been a fan of cruelty or meanness.
3. Anyone taking advantage of me.
4. Cleaning, I just deep cleaned my house and I still hurt.
5. Cold weather
6. Not being able to figure out this thing we call life.
7. Diet soft drinks. Accidentally giving me a diet drink is the one thing a restaurant can do to make me truly mad.
8. Reality tv. I don’t really like scripted reality. What’s real about that?
9. Racism/Sexism, etc. – Anything with people hating others for who they are. Learn to accept people’s differences. I still struggle with understanding this kind of hatred. It’s disgusting.
10. Being sick. I get so whiny.
When I started this blog many years ago, I did not write a lot on it. I have always enjoyed writing (well at least on topics that is not for school). I was one of those people that always kept a diary and wrote in it frequently, almost daily. It’s always been a blog of my personal thoughts and feelings. In January, one of my goals was to write regularly and this is one of the goals I have managed to keep and LOVE. It has been a joy to do updates once or twice a week. One day, I hope to have much more to write about and have the ability to write about it well! Sometimes, I have ideas of something that I would like to talk about but I just feel that it will not come across well, so I pass that post up. I absolutely love blogging about fashion, beauty, and just every day life. So, thank you to all of the readers who have subscribed and gotten some enjoyment out of reading or viewing my posts. Whatever the reason is that have caused it to be somewhat entertaining to you, I hope that I am able to continue on that path.
Thank you, and I will talk to you all soon!
This shirt is so summery with all of the blues, greens and yellows in it. I don’t wear it nearly enough. This is the first time pairing it with blue pants since I normally wear it with yellow ones, but it was screaming to be worn this morning as I was going through my closet this morning looking for something to wear. These colors has definitely perked me up for the day ahead.
I also got a new nail polish yesterday, actually six new nail polishes, but this blue was a great pairing to pull the entire ensemble together along with the white and gold accessories. I don’t think I have ever had a wet and wild polish before, but after three coats, this color is beautiful. I hope you all have a wonderful day.
Talk to you all later.