Some things that I’ve learned these past few months.

As you have read, I have been experiencing a lot of drama this past few months, so here are a few things that I have learned the hard way.

  1. People use the word “love” so haphazardly.  I wonder if they even know the meaning of it.
  2. Many people want to see you fail even if they won’t say it out loud.
  3. Some people only believe in helping others if there is something in it for them.
  4. Family will betray you.
  5. Everyone likes a bit of drama as long as they can watch from the sidelines.
  6. Do not do business with family.  This is something that I had always known, but failed to follow through on.  Twice.
  7. Even though it’s hard, don’t stoop to a negative person’s level.
  8. Try not to hate.  I really see why people can get violent now, but really try to stay above that.
  9. Pray, meditate, exercise….whatever.  I’ve had to find things to keep my mind off of everything.  Not as bad as when my mom passed and I could only sleep with the t.v. on so that I would stop thinking so much about it..but on a smaller scale.
  10. Don’t dwell on the past or the would have, should haves.  Take the situation for the lesson that it was and try no to repeat it.
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Life Drama #3

Well, the saga continues with the woman living in the house in Wisconsin.  I had contacted the water company regarding the outstanding bill and they said that there could be a leak due to the extremely high bill.  They said they had sent a letter to the occupant but as of that day, no one from their office had been there to check the house.  I think she meant that they had not gotten a response to the letter sent.

So, I sent a letter to the tenant to give her 24 hour notice that someone would be at the house to inspect for water leaks and mow the lawn (which is her responsibility but has not been done).  I also text her this information as well.  She sends me a message back saying that the person (my uncle) can’t come that day but could come on Sunday.  I’m trying to be cordial to this girl even though she is being nasty to me.  I tell her that is fine but my uncle goes to church and can come after he gets out.

Today is Sunday.  Guess what?  My uncle gets there and her son tells him that he cannot come into the property because his mother is not home. See how this is playing out.  I request something, she requests to amend but then fails to follow through.  So my uncle can’t get into the property to check or fix leaks and meanwhile the water bill continues to increase MAJORLY.

By the way, per this girl, her son and daughter were moving out because of the eviction.  Everyone is still in the house.  Not paying rent.  Just squatting. And since this has all gone down, they have broken the glass in the front safety door.

Talk to you all again soon…..

Life Drama #2

I decided to write a little update to my original life drama post.  Writing about it is a little therapeutic for me.  If I don’t write, I will be cleaning like a mad person while trying to clear my mind.

So, when we left, my tenant was going to make me actually evict her because she wasn’t leaving.  Well, after speaking to her husband, she came to her senses and agreed to move peacefully but asked if I could give her until August 1st.  I agreed.  I’m not trying to make her life rough, but I’m trying to stop the financial bleeding that I am going to be experiencing once she leaves.  So, the beginning of last week, I reached out to her via text to find out what day she planned on moving.  I already have a new tenant moving in August 1st because we all agreed that she would be gone.  Well, I did not get a response.  On Thursday, I sent another test asking the same and got the response, “Not yet moved out working on it I’ll let you know.”  So this had me a little confused because what is she going to let me know? She has to be out by the 1st.  So I explain that to her and tell her that someone else is moving in on the 1st.  She goes on to tell me that she won’t be gone by the first  as if I’m just supposed to say “ok”.  Now she is inconveniencing not only me, but the person who has already notified her landlord that she was moving!

So of course, this led to another war of words where she tells me that I didn’t handle the situation like a woman and I should have called her to tell her that I wanted her out instead of sending her a typed letter.  People, I have talked to this woman until I am blue in the face about the late payments.  She continued to lie and be rude about the payments.  As far as I’m concerned, there is nothing more to talk about.  So after speaking with many people, I decide to proceed with the eviction process and notify her of that.  Although I had the 15 day notices put on her door, I did not mail it so that could have caused the case to be tossed out.  So I started over and sent her a 5 day notice, certified.   After a week goes by, I can take the notice to the sheriff’s office along with $130 to begin proceedings.

Well after I sent her the text notifying her that I was proceeding and giving my power of attorney to somewhere in the state so that I don’t have to take time off work, she calls me (I don’t answer because I have nothing more to say) and leaves me a lengthy, teary message on how she lost her job and she has no money.  Her kids won’t help her out.  Now, these grown up kids live with her rent free but supposedly now that she’s in a bind, they are all moving into their own places and she can’t go with! Ummmm…………

Honestly, I feel bad for her situation BUT I cannot afford to let her continue to live there for free!  She fails to understand my issue with her staying there and not paying me.  She has options that she is not using.  There are plenty of people who lose their jobs and have to make sacrifices and swallow their pride and ask for help from people that they may not want to.  In my opinion, she has burned so many bridges with people by her crap attitude and lies that no one wants to get involved.  But I know she has family and friends.  She needs to humbly go to them.  I WON’T stop the eviction.  I can’t.  At this point, I’m already $4500 in the hole which she fails to get through her thick skull.

Anyways, the saga continues.  I just want the toxicity of this person and this situation to go away.  Its truly ruining my normally peaceful existence.

Bye for now…..

 

 

Life Drama

Sometimes, no matter how kind of a person you are or how you try to keep your life drama free, unkind situations seem to find you.  I live a relatively low key life.  I mind my own business and stay neutral in all situations.  This is a story on bad business on my part but also a life learning one.

This week, I have been dragged into a little drama.  I inherited my mother’s house after she passed away.  I live in another state and I really didn’t have the time or energy to be there to try to sell it.  So, I decided to let family stay in it.  I only have two requirements for living in this house.  The first requirement is to pay the rent and water bill on time.  The second requirement is to keep the house up.  That’s it.  If they are able to do that, I let them stay for low rent (only the mortgage).  I’m not trying to make money off of it.  Just want to offer something nice to family members and close friends.

Well, I know that if my mom knew all the situations that I would be in by just holding on to her house, she would have sold it.  I know this because she asked me if I wanted her to and I told her NO.  I was already losing her.  I didn’t want to lose something else that she took pride in having.  Anyway, I have a cousin that I decided to let move in.  I love him!  He is one of my favorite people in this world.  His wife, however, is not. My cousin got into trouble almost two years ago and is now in jail.  His wife is still in the house and now responsible for paying the rent and taking care of things.  Well, here is where things start on a downward spiral.

Since the very beginning of her taking over, she has been late with the payments.  Her husband even paid her ahead, unknowingly to her.  But she used up those payments within the first year.  She didn’t pay one dime on the water bill which then got tacked on to the taxes causing the mortgage cost to raise.  She is constantly making plans that she doesn’t keep.  For a while, I would pay the mortgage so that it would not be late because she would say she would pay by a certain date.  She frequently reneged on those promises so I had to stop doing that because it was causing me financial stress. Well, this woman has frequently told me that she can’t afford the mortgage because she’s not making a lot of money.  So, I’m thinking well she’s going to move out.  I would have completely understood.  But she stays and continues to pay late, then suddenly she will catch up and start the non-paying all over again.  I explained to her several times that she has to pay on time because I’m getting letters from the bank.  The bank has also sent letters to the house, which she unlawfully opens and does not mention them to me.  She even took them to other people to look at, but I digress!  Now, she has told me several times that if I want her to move that she would.  So after the last month of continuous lies and non-communication, I took the initiative and gave her notice to move. I explained to her previously about what my expectations for the month of July was and she broke her promises.  Well now she has a problem with it.  She tells me that she’s not going to move and that I will have to take her to court!  This is what I am dealing with.  A chronic liar with no morals.  I just have no words for the situation.  Does she even realize that getting evicted through the court mean that no one will rent to her?  NO ONE.  Where is she going to stay?  So now, I have to take time off and head to another state to take her to court.  Part of me just want to call the bank and tell them to foreclose and part wants to proceed with the court process.  Either way, doing business with family have proven to be a mistake.  I have heard it said before, but didn’t listen.  Now I will.  Now I will try to learn from my mistakes and the mistakes of others.

End of Story.

 

 

Love/Hate Tag

I recently saw this tag and thought it was pretty simple to do.  It also will be fun to come up with my list, so here I go.

10 things I love

1.  Weekends.  I’m living for them.

2.  Great music.  The kind that makes you want to sing at the top of your lungs and can’t help dancing to.

3.  Going to the beach anywhere.  There is nothing like sitting on the beach watching the water and just relaxing

4.  My house.  I just love being at home.

5.  YouTube.  I’m obsessed with daily vlogs.  I also just love that you can find anything you need to learn about.

6.  Social media.  I love reading what other people are getting into.

7.  Finding new clothes or cosmetics. You know…me being a shopping addict and all.

8.  Peace.  I love having time to myself.

9.  Summer.  It’s my favorite season.  I know it can get really really hot, but that’s better than the cold.

10.  Being genuinely happy about anything.

10 things I hate

1.  People over-complicating anything.  Keep it simple, please.  Everything doesn’t have to be so difficult.

2.  Fighting/arguing.  I just have never been a fan of cruelty or meanness.

3. Anyone taking advantage of me.

4.  Cleaning, I just deep cleaned my house and I still hurt.

5.  Cold weather

6.  Not being able to figure out this thing we call life.

7.  Diet soft drinks.  Accidentally giving me a diet drink is the one thing a restaurant can do to make me truly mad.

8.  Reality tv.  I don’t really like scripted reality.  What’s real about that?

9.  Racism/Sexism, etc.  – Anything with people hating others for who they are.  Learn to accept people’s differences.  I still struggle with understanding this kind of hatred.  It’s disgusting.

10.  Being sick.  I get so whiny.

Love this blogging thing!

When I started this blog many years ago, I did not write a lot on it. I have always enjoyed writing (well at least on topics that is not for school). I was one of those people that always kept a diary and wrote in it frequently, almost daily.  It’s always been a blog of my personal thoughts and feelings.  In January, one of my goals was to write regularly and this is one of the goals I have managed to keep and LOVE.  It has been a joy to do updates once or twice a week.  One day, I hope to have much more to write about and have the ability to write about it well!  Sometimes, I have ideas of something that I would like to talk about but I just feel that it will not come across well, so I pass that post up.   I absolutely love blogging about fashion, beauty, and just every day life.  So, thank you to all of the readers who have subscribed and gotten some enjoyment out of reading or viewing my posts.  Whatever the reason is that have caused it to be somewhat entertaining to you, I hope that I am able to continue on that path.

Thank you, and I will talk to you all soon!

Saturday Afternoon Tea

This past month, I have decided to get out and experience more things. I just felt like I have been getting in such a rut, and becoming so boring. Most weekends, I would just sit in the house or go shopping. Now, of course, there is nothing wrong with shopping! Let’s not go crazy, but I just wanted to get out of my comfort zone a little bit. Sometimes when people would ask me to go places, I would just say no because I can be a little anti-social. I do have a little bit of social anxiety, nothing to huge but sometimes being around new people make me uncomfortable. So, yesterday, I went out with friends to a tea room. It was interesting.

My friends and I went to Tea Leaves & Thyme in Woodstock, GA. It’s a tiny little place, but we went there for the experience, and they even have a dressing room where you can choose a gown and hat to take pictures of your “British” experience. I passed on the gown and hat since I dressed for the occasion anyway. This was another dress day for me. I can’t believe how many dresses I have purchased in the last few months, I purchased this cream and white belted Jacquard skater dress from boohoo.com. I was not sure of the sizes so I went up a size in this one and got a size 22 (good choice, in my opinion). At first, I thought the dress was too short, but my friend thought it was fine. The was to my knees all the way around. There is nothing, I hate more than seeing someone with the front of a dress hanging low, and the back hiked up to reveal the butt cheeks! That was my fear, but I was given the thumbs up that all private body parts were far from being exposed. I made special effort to gloss and shine the legs up since I was wearing a shorter dress. Oh I also used a sample of a Glamglow Thirsty Mud hydrating mask, but I will have to save post of my new found love of that product for later. Unfortunately I chose to wear practical flat beige and tangerine sandals instead of pulling out a pair of the MANY wedge sandals that I have in my closet. I knew that somehow, we would end up doing a lot of walking and we did. We left for lunch at 12:30pm and ended up making a day out of. I returned home at 9pm. However, back to lunch.

We ordered the afternoon tea which came with tea (of course), a savory dish, in which I chose a chicken salad croissant, and a tower of desserts, fruits, and mini hand sandwiches. I finally got to see what a cucumber sandwich was about. Hmmm, it wasn’t all it was cracked up to be. We had pimento cheese sandwiches, which I thought was alright and another mini sandwich that I have no idea what it was. Now, these sandwiches were miniature, except of course the chicken salad croissant. They were just giving you a taste of them. Then they had fresh watermelon and cantaloupe and scones. The scones were served with cream and jam. They were pretty good. For desserts, we had chocolate covered strawberries, mini muffins (well everything was mini), and a few other little bits. It was a nice little sampling of things, but I felt like I was starving a few hours later.

Now, for the tea. It was delicious. I had what I felt was probably a dessert tea, but it was so good. It was one of their teas of the day, I believe. It was a chocolate hazelnut tea. It was so yummy. I drank my entire pot and shared none. I had a really nice experience at Tea Leaves and Thyme. They have a a cute little gift shop as well where they sell their teas, tea cups, tea pots, etc. I ended up buying a little heart tea cup and saucer because I have some heart shaped Alessi spoons that goes perfect with it. I had to have one. If anyone is ever in Woodstock, GA… try them out. Anyway, a fun Saturday was had by me and my friends.

Talk to you all soon!

***Tea Leaves & Thyme http://www.tealeavesandthyme.com

Whatever happened to….

Quotation-Morgan-Marouani-life-reality-dreams-ambition-Meetville-Quotes-199022I recently posted on Facebook that I kinda miss my 24 year old self.  It’s true.  I miss that girl.  She had so many dreams and was fearless about what was to come.  At 24, I made the decision to leave home and drive 800+ miles to live in Georgia.  I had such plans.  I was going to become successful!  Now, I did not have those dreams of singing, acting, etc.  I just wanted to become this great business woman that would provide me with the ability to take care of my mother.  That was my dream.  I wanted to be an entrepreneur.  Thinking back to it now, I realize why it did not happen.  I did not have a plan.  I had no clue what I wanted to do.  All I knew when I got here is that I needed a job to be able to pay bills and keep food on my table.  Not a bad goal.  After all, my mother didn’t raise someone show shirks responsibility.  I had to be level headed and needed to know how I was going to make it in this big city.

Unfortunately, due to that feeling of being responsible, I got caught up on the normality of a decent paying job and lost sight of my real goal that caused me to leave Wisconsin.   So, now I am asking myself “what happened to that 24 year old girl?”  I need to get a hold of her again and we need to talk so that we can get back on track with our dreams.

Skater Dress

I am loving this blue and white skater dress from Lane Bryant. This morning, I was running a little late and needed to throw on something quickly for work so here I am along with a few items that I am loving recently. The dress has pockets which definitely comes in handy when I am walking around the office.

Oh, I recently purchased a new Dior Fluid stick. I really like it. It does not feel extremely glossy, but it gives a decent shine. It is somewhat like a stain, but it does not last as long as a matte lipstick such as Ruby Woo, but it lasts a decent amount of time. I wore it all morning and it didn’t fade until lunch. I am loving my Anastasia brow wiz. I completely underestimated the power of filling in my brows. I don’t think I will ever go back to not doing that.

OOTD Info:
Striped Skater Dress from Lane Bryant $74.95
Black Nine West Sandals $39.99
Kate Spade Silver bow bracelet $19.00
Love Necklace – Gift from a friend

Talk to you all soon!

Black and White Hi-Lo Dress

I woke up feeling all pretty and girly this morning, so I decided to finally wear my last new dress that I purchased a while ago. It is a black and white hi-lo dress from Lane Bryant. It can be worn with the optional straps or strapless. I decided to add the straps since it was pretty early in the morning and I wasn’t doing much but running errands and of course heading out to the malls. Originally, I envisioned myself wearing this with a bright yellow shrug and yellow wedge sandals, but I could never find the shrug and just got tired of staring at the beauty in my closet.

So, I threw it on along with a few silver accessories and silver thong sandals to further casual it down, and off I went. I made sure to use my Bathina body balm by Benefit so that I could be a bronzed goddess. I felt beautiful. The weather was perfect for it. It was about 75 degrees, sunny, with a slight breeze.

So, here are the pictures of my lovely outfit this morning, along with a picture of some Kate Spade heels that I would have liked to wear with it if I could manage to walk in a heel that high that isn’t a wedge.

My make up was pretty much the same that I wore for yesterday’s barbecue. I think it is becoming my summer look. Let me know your thoughts. I am truly enjoying wearing dresses for the first time in my life.

Talk to you all soon!